`In the cruel world of love, I've learned that promises aren't contracts, kisses aren't assurance, sweet words aren't guarantees and big hugs aren't bonds - that NOTHING's PERMANENT in this life.. One day he's mine, the next day HE's GONE. Last night, he's sweet.. the next morning he's INSENSITIVE. I've realized that loving someone is not always about FAIRYTALES && FANTASIES.. Well, it's about TRUTH && REALITY~ ♥

Saturday, November 21, 2009

Do's and Dont's ~ ♥

1. "Ang mag-assume, TALO (kahit 2% pa yan)."


2. "Kung ayaw may DAHILAN, kung gusto may PARAAN."


3. "Wag masyado magpadala sa text."


4. "BACK OFF (as in back off) sa mga IN A RELATIONSHIP, kahit saan anggulo mo tingnan, ikaw pa rin ang mali."


5. "Never borrow someone else's man/girl. If he/she cheated with you, he'll/she'll cheat on you."


6. "Hayaan mo siyang gawin yung gusto niyang gawin. Buhay niya yun, hindi mo maco-control. As long as alam niya yung limitations niya."
GOLDEN RULE: "Don't do unto HER what you don't want HER to do unto you."


7. "Take it slow... Steady lang..."


8. "Maniwala sa IT'S COMPLICATED na status. Hindi lang chenes yan."


9. "Learn to LET GO kung alam mong wala na talaga."
Don't stay because you think, "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. Sometimes guys mistreat you because you allow them to... Maintain boundaries in how a guy/girl treats you..."


10. "Keep your DIGNITY."


11. "If a man/woman wants you, nothing can keep him/her away. If he/she doesn't want you, nothing can make him/her stay."


12. "Wag magselos sa siblings and relatives ng boyfriend/girlfirend mo."


13. "Ang QT (quality time), at least 5 hours lang per week."


14. "Don't revolve your life around him/her. Learn to be independent."


15. "Hindi dahilan ang TIME."


16. "Kung ayaw sayo ng kapatid, hayaan mo siya. Wala siyang magagawa kung mahal ka talaga niya."


17. "Wag magpakilala sa parents agad. It can affect your relationship."


18. "Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Kadalasan tama ito mga girls..."


19. "Be nice to your EX. Wag maging BITTER"



20. "If a relationship ends because the man/woman was not treating you, as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. At some case this is applicable.."

21. "Wag magpadala sa SITUATION. Baka overwhelmed ka lang."

22. "Stop making excuses for a man/woman and his/her behavior. Paminsan-minsan take off your helmet."


23. "When you meet anyone, remember it's a holy encounter. As you treat them you will treat yourself. As you think of them, you think of yourself. Never forget this, for in them you will find yourself or lose yourself."


24. "Hindi balakid kung magkaiba ang RELIGION niyong dalawa."


25. "Kung kayang i-workout, i-WORKOUT!"
Kalokohan ang reason na "IT'S NOT YOU, IT'S ME."


26. "All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending... compromise is a two way street."

27. "Learn to forgive para magkaroon ka ng peace of mind."

28. "Some can forgive but can't forget."


29. "If something bothers you, speak up!!... mahirap kapag nagpapakiramdaman lang kayo."


30. "OPEN COMMUNICATION, TRUST AND HONESTY are the most important ingredients in a relationship."


31. "You need time to heal between relationships... there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship pag hindi kasi, it can affect or even ruin your relationship."


32. "Ok lang na magselos, basta yung pakilig lang."


33. "Always have your own set of friends separate from his/her para may iba kang channels that is without him/her... diba?"


34. "Make him/her miss you sometimes... when a man/woman always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him/her, he/she takes it for granted."


35. "Always make time for your family and friends."


36. "You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary... not supplementary."


37. "Always make time for yourself."


38. "Wala yun sa tagal ng relationship... nasa pagmamahal."

39. "There's NO SUCH THING as MR. RIGHT or MS. RIGHT. It's how you mold him/her to become rightfully for you."


40. "There's NO SUCH THING as COOL OFF/GRAY AREA. Kung white, white! Kung black, black! Walang GRAY AREA..."


41. "Always think a number of times before deciding on to something important."


42. "There's a possibility that a person can get attracted to another. It's human nature. It's not wrong. But that is why you're in a commitment, you discipline yourself. One may get attracted to numerous prospects and its ok. As long as, you don't nurse the feeling and do something about it. Borderline between cheating and faithfulness. Recognize reality that you already have the person that can give you more than what you get for the cheap thrill of attraction."


43. "You need to let go of the past to have a future...(ICE AGE 2)."

44. "Do not take anyone for granted."

45. "If what you see by the eye doesn't please you, then close your eyes and see from the heart. Because the heart can see beauty and love more than the eyes can ever wonder."


46. "If you felt it, then it was true. Getting hurt doesn't always mean you suffered, it also means you loved sincerely. Don't frown because it's over... SMILE BECAUSE IT HAPPENED."


47. "KARMA (whatever you do) will find its way."


48. "Everything will fall into place."

Monday, November 9, 2009

How to Get Over a Break up~ :)

How to Get Over a Break up

Effective love advice on how to get over a relationship break up. This is a must read for all who are lovelorn.

This is one of the most difficult parts of a love life to get over, it is how to get over a relationship break up. It is tough nursing a broken heart, and we all need a little help to get over this broken heart. The lesson here is that friends and family, basically company, is need always to get over a heart break. Read on to find out how to get over a relationship break up!

The first love, the someone whom you most probably would have decided there and then that you would probably spend the rest of your life with him or her. But sometimes it ends. And it is most painful when it ends abruptly. Arguments are perfectly normal, but when it gets to a certain breaking point, you know that it cannot continue, and you two end the relationship. Or when your partner cheats on you. That is probably the most painful and when you have to break up.

As impossible as it may seem, the rule of thumb to deal with this is to tell yourself that you want to get over him or her. If there is still a little bit inside you that wants it to still work out, then you will never get over your ex or the unreciprocative lover (one-sided crush). And nothing you do will ever work. It has got to start with inside yourself. Your mind is the most powerful after all. And you need to stay away from him or her during the initial period till you are comfortable with meeting him again. Chances are, if you keep being in the company of him or her, you will NEVER get over it and you will be stuck. So please, be brave and take the first step and avoid the person. And while you are avoiding the person, below are some things that you can do to make it easier.

Well here are some concrete steps that you can take to get over a break up.

1.) Talking to someone about the break up. You need to let it out! Bottling it up inside of you is never going to solve your problem. Always verbalize your problems to a listening ear. Any problem whatsoever.

2.) Talk to someone in a similar situation helps too.

3.) Get more ideas on how to get over a break up.

4.) Get busy. Occupy yourself with meaningful things like picking up a hobby or learning something new or preoccupying yourself with books and work.

5.) Watch funny movies, read funny comics, chill and laugh around with your friends. Laughter as always is the best medicine. It always makes you feel better no matter what.

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Ways to Get Over a Breakup

Get rid of whatever items that remind you of your partner. Numbers, messages, letters, gifts. If you can't bear to throw them away, put them with your close friend or somewhere you can't easily get to.

This is mean but pretty effective. Start to concentrate on the negative aspects of your partner's character and tell yourself it is not worth it.

Another mean thing to do and it might cause someone else hurt. I do not think it is wise but the thing is you might meet someone better. Go dating, meeting new people, making new friends. Caution: You might fall in love again so be sure to keep your distance. Moving on to someone else to get over someone is effective but not the ideal way to go about doing things. But please don't give anyone the hear break.

Write down all the hurts and angst inside you on a piece of paper and throw it away. Make the getting over tangible. Helps heaps too.

Once again, talk to your friends, hang out with them! Friends are your pillars of support and as they say 'a friend in need is a friend indeed.' Let all your grief out.

Don't Bottle it Inside of You!



-- This really one helps~ Get over with your not-so-good past relationships! :)
Move on! <3

SOURCE: http://www.yourlifehappiness.com

Sunday, November 8, 2009

I FEEL SO SORRY FOR MYSELF~

For all the things I've done for him, there's one thing that made me feel regret with. - FOR ONE TIME, I FORGOT TO THINK ABOUT MYSELF. I've given so much and felt so much pain without even thinking to leave something even a bit for myself.

5hours, 54mins, 36seconds.. exactly from this time on, i can feel that he's now going to leave me. *HANDS UP* I cant do anything about it anymore. As what they're saying, what's the sense of holding on to someone who's not in love with you anymore. For all the sacrifices you've done for him - it's just NOTHING. He didn't even realize my worth. Nothing hurts more than realizing he meant everything to you, but you meant nothing to him.His friends said, │"let him go" │"You deserve better"│.. I'm so pissed off. I hate talking about these stuffs, about how i became so pathetic, martyr && stupid enough to let him do those things to me.

I know it'll be very hard for me to let go of everything - the love i still have for him (will take long enough to fade), the memories that still lingers on my mind (probably will just stay in my mind forever), the plans we've been planning will only be happened in my dreams && the promises that he made me hold on to will only be the words of assurance of my yesterday. I've even dreamed to be his wife of our kids, waking up each day beside him and plan things that will come our way. I never knew it'll end up this way, he said he's going to change and he even asked for a 2nd chance but where is it now? I cant see nor feel any changes from him.

People change, yes indeed.. so I believe everything will get back how on it was used to be. All I want is to get back where things make sense.

It makes me wonder if it does hurt him too, or even think of me when he's doing all those things.. because if YES, he wont keep doing it all over again - if NO, probably he just don't care at all.

PS:

♥ I FEEL SO SORRY FOR MYSELF.

LSS:

♥ MY HAPPY ENDING│AVRIL LAVIGNE

Friday, November 6, 2009

Things have changed.

Seems like i really dont update this much. As ive read my previous blogs, that was still when the 1st semester starts.. But now, another semester has come but im not going to school anymore. I was working as a host somewhere in Greenhills but sad to say, there were some things that made me end my contract there. So im planning to apply again. I dont want to be stucked up here - surfing the net all day -. Uh! that's not nice.

For the past months, i can definitely say that people change though you dont want them to. Before, it was twice a night then suddenly it became twice a month until it was totally NONE at all. To decide to end up a relationship when you fall out of love is easier than being caught in the middle. Middle of what? Between your mind and heart, of course! This is what I’m going to deal now: loving your partner but for some reasons, you are confused, perhaps, pathetic?! This sucks.

I remember some lines from Dawsons Creek - "I think it is time I'll let you go, and that is so hard to do because some part of me will be in love with you for the rest of my life, but the daydreaming, the running in place .. it’s not healthy. So this is me, cutting the cord. This is me, doing what I should have done eight months ago … saying goodbye.”

I am sure that I love him but the thing is, HE's ALWAYS HURTING ME. At first, he's just unintentionally making me feel worthless but now HE JUST DONT CARE AT ALL.

1.) What's with dating someone else knowing that THERE's STILL US? 2.) Then out of the blue just wont receive any text from him at all. 3.)You would just know that the reason why he's not replying with your messages is because he got his new cellphone number without even informing me at all. 4.) Telling his friends that we're already broke up weeks ago which is a LIE. 5.) Changing his accounts from MARRIED to SINGLE && deleting me in his featured friends. 6.) Flirting with his Exs && to some other girls.
Probably, i should have been dead than be totally ignored at all - I SHOULDNT HAVE EXISTED.

It's slowly killing me - I die inside each time he replace me.

My lips were sealed for a long time and he have never heard any single word from me. Id rather be quiet and let him just realize what was he doing to himself or rather in our relationship. Im just hoping that he would realize that all of those things, all the lies && all the pain he's giving me wont do any good at all.
One thing that only goes on my mind - " ATLEAST IM NOT DOING ANYTHING AGAINST THE LIMITS AND OFCOURSE THE CLEAN CONSCIENCE IS MINE~